As soon as we got back from Montana — with visions of Griz pendants hanging in our heads — and I had a clear idea of the size/shape/layout of Ricky’s future dorm room, I wanted to go shopping.
I did a “scout shop,” where I ran into Bed, Bath and Beyond one night without him, just to “see what they had.” I spent a couple of hours, eyeing color-coordinated comforters, mattress pads, pillows, sheet sets, towels, throw rugs, lamps, eating utensils, shower supplies, white boards, desk organizers, even waste baskets — all giddy with anticipation. I had visions of going back with my son, showing him options, having him make selections, and us wheeling out a big cart out of each store with everything we needed, maybe going to lunch, planning out how his new life would look.
But then …
Well, then I realized … I had a son.
He had no interest in mattress pads. Couldn’t care less if his sheets matched or not. Shrugged at one pillow or two. Shrugged again at what kind of laundry hamper he’d need.
Yes, he thinks about his needs for next year, but his thoughts cover only electronics — he’s been researching what new phone plan he’ll sign up for (did I mention Montana didn’t have reception for ANY of our phones???), which new phone he should get, and wondering if he should get a new laptop. If it doesn’t come with an adapter, plug or batteries, it simply doesn’t capture his attention. (But hey! I might be able to get him to pick out a lamp!)
Anyway, my new blogging friend Tracy, who blogs for me over at Health Bistro, sent me a note saying she’s going through the exact same thing with her twin boys, who she’s sending to college this fall. She said she was able to drag them each over to the computer for 30 seconds to pick out bedding online. And she pointed me to Residence Hall Linens, a cool web site that allows you to buy entire packages of college needs: bedding needs, shower needs, etc., all for a really good price. They even allow you to increase the thread count on the sheets and add in extra blankets if you need.
I finally made friends with the fact that my son and I were not going to wheel shopping carts together and have lunch to discuss lamps and throw blankets. I caught him tonight before he ran out the door again to spend more time with friends, and got him to look at this web site for 30 seconds and pick out a color.
Deep sigh. My visions of us shopping together are probably out the window.
(But I do have a daughter coming up the line. …)
(And I might get him to go to Target with me to pick out a lamp.)