Comments on: Advice to the Young Me http://mizwrite.com/2010/01/21/advice-to-the-young-me/ Scribbled notes on being a mom, a wife, and a romance writer Wed, 16 May 2012 03:40:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Geraldine http://mizwrite.com/2010/01/21/advice-to-the-young-me/comment-page-1/#comment-1504 Geraldine Sun, 24 Jan 2010 19:58:30 +0000 http://mizwrite.com/?p=2165#comment-1504 Cool! I like all of these. I'm only 25 so i can still use these.... I like Cynthia's & Rosy's the best. <3 Geraldine Cool!

I like all of these. I’m only 25 so i can still use these…. I like Cynthia’s & Rosy’s the best.

<3
Geraldine

]]> By: mizwrite http://mizwrite.com/2010/01/21/advice-to-the-young-me/comment-page-1/#comment-1369 mizwrite Fri, 22 Jan 2010 23:45:59 +0000 http://mizwrite.com/?p=2165#comment-1369 Got some great advice to young selves on Facebook, too, that I thought I'd share: Shea: Don't marry him! [*smile*] Olivia: Spend more time with your family! Geri: Work IS actually more important than partying. Lauran: Things will all work out. Lauran: Don't take yourself so seriously. Rosy: Have much more respect for yourself as an individual and your place in the world--and stop to consider! {Rosy notes that this might have been more to her teen self, though.} Beverly: Remember. . .everything happens for a reason, this too shall pass!!! Cynthia: Self: There is absolutely nothing *good* going on after midnight! Go home and get more sleep. Ann Marie: Appreciate your mom more! She won't be around forever and when you're a mom you'll understand! Spend time with those you love and don't waste your time with those that don't love you! I could go on forever but you get the idea!!! Lauran: This question sticks with you and I thought of another one as I was getting ready this morning - moisture every day even though you don't think you need it. Love these! Got some great advice to young selves on Facebook, too, that I thought I’d share:

Shea: Don’t marry him! [*smile*]

Olivia: Spend more time with your family!

Geri: Work IS actually more important than partying.

Lauran: Things will all work out.
Lauran: Don’t take yourself so seriously.

Rosy: Have much more respect for yourself as an individual and your place in the world–and stop to consider! {Rosy notes that this might have been more to her teen self, though.}

Beverly: Remember. . .everything happens for a reason, this too shall pass!!!

Cynthia: Self: There is absolutely nothing *good* going on after midnight! Go home and get more sleep.

Ann Marie: Appreciate your mom more! She won’t be around forever and when you’re a mom you’ll understand! Spend time with those you love and don’t waste your time with those that don’t love you! I could go on forever but you get the idea!!!

Lauran: This question sticks with you and I thought of another one as I was getting ready this morning – moisture every day even though you don’t think you need it.

Love these!

]]> By: mizwrite http://mizwrite.com/2010/01/21/advice-to-the-young-me/comment-page-1/#comment-1368 mizwrite Fri, 22 Jan 2010 23:36:55 +0000 http://mizwrite.com/?p=2165#comment-1368 Lauran -- "do it now" -- across the board, you mean? Like travel, go, invest, visit, etc. -- just do whatever you're thinking of doing? That makes sense, actually. Sometimes we don't trust ourselves or our instincts but we probably realize later we were right on. Lauran — “do it now” — across the board, you mean? Like travel, go, invest, visit, etc. — just do whatever you’re thinking of doing? That makes sense, actually. Sometimes we don’t trust ourselves or our instincts but we probably realize later we were right on.

]]> By: mizwrite http://mizwrite.com/2010/01/21/advice-to-the-young-me/comment-page-1/#comment-1367 mizwrite Fri, 22 Jan 2010 23:34:41 +0000 http://mizwrite.com/?p=2165#comment-1367 Actually, Debi, I'll bet it will play out the same way -- You'll be good at keeping "mom worries" to yourself, and they will just be left with your joy when they are home, and the good times they have when they visit. Perfect. I'm so glad you asked them! That's very cool! And so neat that their answers were just what you wanted (and maybe needed?) to hear. .... Actually, Debi, I’ll bet it will play out the same way — You’ll be good at keeping “mom worries” to yourself, and they will just be left with your joy when they are home, and the good times they have when they visit. Perfect. I’m so glad you asked them! That’s very cool! And so neat that their answers were just what you wanted (and maybe needed?) to hear. ….

]]> By: Debi http://mizwrite.com/2010/01/21/advice-to-the-young-me/comment-page-1/#comment-1359 Debi Fri, 22 Jan 2010 15:20:25 +0000 http://mizwrite.com/?p=2165#comment-1359 Wow, what a thought provoker. I think at 22 I worried less than I do now about most things. I always felt good about my time spent with the kids, etc until I had my 3rd child and became a single parent. That put me in survival mode and made me realize I had to do whatever needed to be done to provide, and I did. I may not have sat on the floor and played enough, or gone to the park as often as they may have wanted, but that's okay. I started to worry for their safety when they went to school, started staying at friends' house...and you would think with my children being 16, almost 19 and almost 22, that I wouldn't worry quite so much - but I think I worry much more now. I actually just had conversations with them all when Kirk was home for Christmas about when they were little. I asked them what they remember, what they liked, how they thought I did....was I attentive enough, fun enough, did they always felt loved and happy with our home...You know what, they said yes! All the things that I thought were "awful" are things they don't know about or remember being an issue. They remember watching movies, wrestling on the floor, playing with certain toys, friends, etc. There are plenty of things I would change in my life and tons of advice I would give myself on choices made, etc - but I guess I did ok with them. What I wish for now is that I had my 20 years from now self to let me know how these years will play out. I am very worried about paying for their college, will they stay in, what kind of trouble they will get into being adults, car crashes, etc. I don't remember my mom being worried when we all left, in fact I think she was happy to have an empty nest - me, I am terrified of all the choices they have to make and scared because I know I can't do it for them! Wow, what a thought provoker. I think at 22 I worried less than I do now about most things. I always felt good about my time spent with the kids, etc until I had my 3rd child and became a single parent. That put me in survival mode and made me realize I had to do whatever needed to be done to provide, and I did. I may not have sat on the floor and played enough, or gone to the park as often as they may have wanted, but that’s okay. I started to worry for their safety when they went to school, started staying at friends’ house…and you would think with my children being 16, almost 19 and almost 22, that I wouldn’t worry quite so much – but I think I worry much more now. I actually just had conversations with them all when Kirk was home for Christmas about when they were little. I asked them what they remember, what they liked, how they thought I did….was I attentive enough, fun enough, did they always felt loved and happy with our home…You know what, they said yes! All the things that I thought were “awful” are things they don’t know about or remember being an issue. They remember watching movies, wrestling on the floor, playing with certain toys, friends, etc. There are plenty of things I would change in my life and tons of advice I would give myself on choices made, etc – but I guess I did ok with them. What I wish for now is that I had my 20 years from now self to let me know how these years will play out. I am very worried about paying for their college, will they stay in, what kind of trouble they will get into being adults, car crashes, etc. I don’t remember my mom being worried when we all left, in fact I think she was happy to have an empty nest – me, I am terrified of all the choices they have to make and scared because I know I can’t do it for them!

]]> By: Lauran http://mizwrite.com/2010/01/21/advice-to-the-young-me/comment-page-1/#comment-1356 Lauran Thu, 21 Jan 2010 20:38:39 +0000 http://mizwrite.com/?p=2165#comment-1356 Well my advice to my current 'me' 20 years from now would be to do it now - don't wait. Well my advice to my current ‘me’ 20 years from now would be to do it now – don’t wait.

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